Hypnotherapy and self-hypnosis

New Hypnotherapy Diploma comes to York

April 12th, 2010

I have spent the last few days researching venues for a very exciting new project that I’m involved in – a Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma that is coming to York in 2011.

Together with my colleague, the incredibly talented hypnotherapist and trainer,  Adam Eason, I’ll be offering an intensive 18-day training throughout February and July 2011 in my beautiful home town of York.

Adam and I are both very excited about working together to offer people this unique opportunity to gain all the skills and knowledge necessary to become fully qualified and accredited Clinical Hypnotherapists. It is going to be fabulous to work together in this way, combining our approaches to equip people with the latest evidence-based skills and practices in this field that we are both so passionate about.

You’ll train with us in February, go away and deveop your skills with our guidance and then return in July for further in-depth training.

More details to be released over the next couple of weeks. Watch this space – or in the meantime drop me a line if you want to be the first to find out more.

Have yourself a self-hypnosis mini-holiday

March 30th, 2010

In recent weeks, I’ve been having a lot of fun working all over the country. I’ve just counted up that I’ve been on a total of nine rail journeys and four car trips in the past five weeks. I went down to Bournemouth to give a talk about my Hypnotic Journaling process to a peer support group run by my friend and colleague, the wonderful Adam Eason. I met lots of lovely Hampshire hypnotherapists there too. What a great bunch of people.

After a short deviation through Sussex, I read my poems and gave two workshops at the Writers Festival at Leeds Trinity University College for my good friend, the lovely Oz Hardwick. And then, most recently, I spent a week in the Suffolk countryside with some wonderfully talented poets, working on my own writing under the inspiring tutorship of Michael Laskey and Peter Sansom.

I’ve actually been back working in Yorkshire for a week now but I’m still processing and benefiting from my time away. I find it so helpful, sometimes, to move my physical space – have a change of scene, move out of the old cosily established ‘comfort zone.’ It seems to quite literally help my brain to make new connections.

Interestingly, in one of those serendipitous  patterns that so often happens in what I do, I’ve been working with a couple of clients recently who need to make more space in their lives for their own self-nurture.

And, of course, you don’t need to get on a train or drive half-way across the country to do this.  Journaling and free-writing or self-hypnosis are very effective ways to create a change of mental and physical scene. And, of course, if you are me, then you will probably combine the two in a Hypnotic Journaling process, where you use free-writing as a kind of self-hypnosis to get that old stuff that may have been bothering you out onto the page and make room for new possibilities to come in.

I think we often tend to think about taking a break or a holiday is some Big Event that we need to spend months planning for. In fact, over the years, I’ve worked with people who find themselves feeling stressed at the thought of going on holiday – it feels as if it’s just so much effort to organise and make happen!

But you can take a self-hypnosis mini-holiday whenever you choose. You may even form the very helpful habit of blocking off some time in your diary every week to do that – and then get out your notebook or plug yourself into a self-hypnosis audio programme or practise a self-hypnosis technique in order to give yourself a deep, refreshing mini-break.

So next time you catch yourself saying, ‘I really need a break…’ maybe it’s time to give yourself just that.  And you may only need to make twenty minutes to enjoy it. I think we can give oursleves a really hard time over taking time off – as if work hast to be really, really hard and we’re not allowed to enjoy and look after ourselves in the process.

I can tell you that my own different kinds of changes to my working environments and my writing retreats over the past few weeks have resulted in lots of new and exciting projects. I’m going to be running  a very exciting Hypnotherapy Diploma training with Adam Eason here in the beautiful city of York in 2011, for example. And I have some other training projects in the pipeline.

More on all this very soon. In the meantime, have a fabulous Tuesday.

Instant pleasure and the hypnotic effects of music

March 12th, 2010

Last night, I was listening to music whilst cooking Tom one of his favourite suppers. (For any foodies out there, it involves chestnuts and Savoy cabbage and it is really a lot more delicious than that actually sounds…)

As I blanched, chopped and stir-fried, I stuck my iPod in our speaker-gadget thingie (technical term) and whacked up the volume. It wasn’t long before I was dancing around the kitchen to tunes I hadn’t heard in a very long time: Morcheeba, Moloko, Goldfrapp and one of my all-time favourites, ‘Instant Pleasure,’ by Rufus Wainwright.

I had my music on the shuffle setting and tracks popped up that I hadn’t listened to in a couple of years. It was very interesting to me that, as each song came on, images from the past would pop into my mind.

Some of the songs were powerfully associated for me with the last long hot summer I spent living in London; others revivified for me the experience of driving around in Tom’s car through the Yorkshire countryside in the first months after we met.

It reminded me of just how powerful music is for me in inducing these trance phenomena. To be more specific about it, you might say that music has the ability to trigger a series of age regressions in which I revisit specific scenes and feel in my body some of what I felt back then combined, in a particularly potent way, with my emotions about remembering those scenes from my past.

Fragrances and scents do that for me too:  the smell of old books with a certain kind of paper can regress me right back to particular moments from my childhood; the smell of a cocoa butter body lotion I like to use still carries with it a memory of my first holiday in France. I am leaning out of the window of an old house on the coast, looking at the sun making long shadows between the olive trees, stretching my arms above my head.

Of course, I have cultivated that particular association, perhaps deepened it over the years, because I enjoy experiencing it so much. I can still connect with the sense of excitement, of my life opening for me, that I felt as a thirteen-year-old in France and I want to reconnect with that feeling, from time to time.

The iPod-induced trance phenomena I experienced last night was a powerful reminder of the ability of our minds to create these associations. Sometimes it is extremely pleasurable to revivify and reconstruct the happy, life-enhancing memories and experiences that nurture deep parts of our selves.

You know, I think that sometimes, as hypnotherapists, we can easily forget that spontaneous regression as a phenomenon doesn’t have to be difficult or unhelpful. We might spend a lot of time working with people who need help in stopping the unhelpful regression to and endless reconstruction of incidents and events in their past that are troubling them in some way.

And yet there are all kinds of powerful positive memories and associations that we can draw upon as resources to help us to strengthen aspects of our selves.

I don’t think that’s what Rufus Wainwright actually means when he sings about, (ahem!) ‘Instant Pleasure,’ but it works for me.

Self-hypnosis and the story of your innate creativity

March 11th, 2010

Yesterday, I ran two Word Sauce workshops and read my poems at the 6th Annual Writers’ Festival at Leeds Trinity University College. How wonderful to see so many enthusiastic people experimenting with writing of all kinds and developing their creativity.

One of the participants in my afternoon workshop asked me a very interesting question. We were talking about using writing to ‘dialogue’ with feelings, emotions or physical sensations when he observed, ‘But to do that, wouldn’t I have to be a creative person?’

So what is a ‘Creative Person’?

Who is this person, so different from most of us, who is Creative with a capital ‘C’?

When we begin to become more consciously aware of the stories we tell ourselves about creativity and creative people, we can begin to question and challenge some of the myths around creativity and what makes people creative.

In his book,  Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery and Invention, Mihalyi Csikszentmhalyi interviews creative people from many different fields: the arts, mathematics and science, inventors, educators, thinkers, therapists. He concludes that creative people are not people who simply happen to connect with and express their own innate abilities but people who combine their abilities with disciplined practice. They actually invest time in finding and developing their flow experience – through activities which actively nurture this.

Many of our ideas about the messy, crazy, slightly chaotic or even brilliantly tortured creative soul are simply not true – and probably extremely limiting to us.

To create, we need not only to be able to allow our ideas to emerge, but we also need to work at our particular skill, through consistent disciplined practice.We need to combine playfulness with emotional intelligence, nurturing creative freedom and discipline.

When we talk about ‘creative people,’ we often leave ourselves out. I loved helping people to rediscover yesterday that, using self-hypnosis and writing as self-hypnosis to find our flow or optimal state, we can create something out of an apparent nothing; that, by connecting with the feelings and emotions that are always going on for us, beneath all our ‘busy-ness,’  we can remember and reconnect with our innate creativity.

And when we practice a few simple self-hypnosis and free-writing techniques, regularly and with consistency, we can enjoy experiencing ourselves as Creative People every day.

Next time you catch yourself wistfully wishing that you were ‘more creative’ or that you could be more creative ‘if you only had the time/ the right space/ could leave your current job, etc, etc,’ it might be helpful to ask yourself if that story is holding you back in some way.

Take a few deep breaths. Learn and practice a self-hypnosis or free-writing technique. Invest a little time each day in finding your own flow.

Wednesday Wordsauce: A story told and retold

February 24th, 2010

“Memory is continually created, a story told and retold, using jigsaw pieces of experience. It’s utterly unreliable in some ways, because who can say whether the feeling or emotion that seems to belong to the recollection actually belongs to it rather than being available from the general store of likely emotions we have learned? Memory is not false in the sense that it is willfully bad, but it is excitingly corrupt in its inclination to make a proper story of the past.”

Jenny Diski

Sophie’s outrageous and blatant self-promotion of her new free eBook

February 18th, 2010

Listen!

Wednesday Wordsauce: Won’t you celebrate with me?

February 16th, 2010

won’t you celebrate with me
what i have shaped into
a kind of life? i had no model.
born in babylon
both nonwhite and woman
what did i see to be except myself?
i made it up’

Lucille Clifton

from ‘won’t you celebrate with me,’ Book of Light, Copper Canyon Press (1993).
Lucille Clifton, award-winning poet, died on 13 February, aged 73.

Research, evidence-based practice and what ‘evidence’ means in hypnotherapy

February 11th, 2010

What do you think about when you think about ‘evidence’ in hypnotherapy? Or when you think about ‘evidence’ for any kind of clinical or theraputic intervention?

I think it’s an interesting and important question to ask.

Evidence can mean – and is often thought to mean, solely and entirely – the data gathered through third-person research and quantitative studies such as random controlled trials and systematic reviews. These are reviews that are largely designed to produce ‘objective,’ ‘third-person’ evidence. Read the rest of this entry »

Wordsauce Wednesday: Yes

February 10th, 2010

love is a place
& through this place of
love move
(with brightness of peace)
all places

yes is a world
& in this world of
yes live
(skilfully curled)
all worlds

e.e. cummings (508)

A hypnotic metaphor for change

February 9th, 2010

One of the many reasons that I think I was so powerfully drawn to the kind of work that I do as a hypnotherapist is my interest in – or should I say passion for – metaphor.

Over the years, I have researched conceptual metaphor theory extensively and used it consciously and subconsciously in my own writing. I am fascinated by the way that we all use metaphor, every single day of our lives, to describe our experiences.

We have spatial metaphors: I feel so down today.

We have metaphors that suggest that we experience our body as a sort of container for our emotions: I was seething with anger. I thought I might explode.

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Loneliness v. time alone

February 5th, 2010

I am reading a wonderfully nurturing book right now by Abby Seixas called ‘Finding the Deep River Within: Gentle Wisdom for Women in a Hurried World.’

Men, out there, stay with me. This is most definitely not a women-only situation.

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Word Sauce Wednesday: Breathe

February 3rd, 2010

‘He who breathes more air lives more life.’

Elizabeth Barrett Browning

(With a big thank you to Steve Chandler.)

Model Gisele Bundchen uses hypnosis for childbirth

It’s all over the papers and the internet right now. Yes, the preposterous ‘claim’ by Gisele Bundchen that the birth of her son, Benjamin, at her home in Boston, ‘didn’t hurt in the slightest.’

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The hypnotic power of other people’s self-talk

February 2nd, 2010

I was talking to a dear friend of mine the other day who is making some changes in his life. In fact, he is on ‘a bit of a roll,’ as they say. As he makes one change and understands how he can let go of unhelpful thoughts and behaviors in one area of his life, he then begins to discover that he can also do that in another area.

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Creating a retreat

January 22nd, 2010

Today I am going on a creative retreat. I am loading my car with favourite writing materials, books, nourishing foods, my favourite herbal teas and, of course, this being a Yorkshire retreat, my raingear and wellies, and I am off.

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Slides from my talk for UKGHE

January 16th, 2010

Here are some slightly amended slides from the talk and workshop I gave at the UK Guild Of Hypnotist Examiners Annual Conference in Scarborough today.

What a lovely bunch of people you all are at the UKGHE.

Please do get in touch if you have any questions. You’ll also find a link to the ebook, Hypnotic Journaling here.

Letting go of how I think I should do a blog post

January 13th, 2010

You may have noticed a slight change in the tone and content of these posts so far this year.

In fact, OK, what I’m probably saying here is that I really hope that you have noticed.

Because, you see, I am doing a thing here. My thing. The thing I think I always wanted to do but never quite felt brave enough or free enough or perhaps never slowed down enough to notice that I wanted to do it.

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The freeze… and the thaw

January 11th, 2010

It seems to be thawing now, here in North Yorkshire. At least, I think so. I can hear strange creaking noises on the roof as chunks of frozen snow begin to slide. Perhaps because of this, my dreams last night were full of things moving -  slipping and slithering and melting away.

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Controlling the weather

January 8th, 2010

Since when did it become someone’s responsibility to predict the weather accurately, within a few degrees?

I couldn’t help wondering that as I watched the evening news here in the UK this evening.

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The one where I rant about TV New Year diet programmes

January 7th, 2010

OK, it’s that time of year again. Although actually, it seems that any time of year is a time of year to screen programmes about how to diet.

My Big Fat Diet Show is Channel 4′s latest offering and I have to say that, rather than annoy my partner by shouting at the TV, I did just switch it off after about ten minutes. But ten minutes was more than enough.

The show is described by the programme-makers as an “interactive diet along” hosted by Supersize versus Superskinny presenter and “serial dieter” Anna Richardson.

Well, that’s a good start then, isn’t it. Someone who describes themselves as ‘a serial dieter’ surely isn’t the best person to show people how to be the weight and shape they want to be permanently? Or am I missing something?

There’s more. Richardson is accompanied by six “diet divas”, a group of women who will be dieting along with her.

So, hey, now you can be a diva of the diet, girls. Whoo-hoo. What fun. Let’s all go on one together. It’lll be such fun. (Sorry. I will do my best to keep my sarcasm at bay.)

Over the next two weeks, these women will ‘try to drop a dress size’ (don’t even get me started on ‘trying’ to do something versus just doing it) and, by eating a 1200-calories-a-day diet, they will lose weight. At the end of the two weeks, they will introduce more calories. It’s safe, easy and it’s a great TV show. Ta-da.

Over at Channel 4′s promotional web site for the programme Anna Richardson tells us more about why she describes herself as a ‘serial dieter:’
She says:

‘I’ve just done three series of Supersize vs Superskinny, and in series one, my job was to investigate and immerse myself in the world of extreme diets. So I started off that series back in 2007 at 11 and a half stone. Every week for eight weeks, I had to try a different approach. So week one, I had to try the apple diet, week two I tried diet pills, week three I tried surgery. I tried everything going. Over the course of about a year and a half, I successfully lost two stone. I have, over the years, tried every single diet going, and for the first time in 20 years, I have found my own way of eating, that has made me really quite a successful dieter.’

Now, pardon me, but if I am not mistaken, in the course of her investigations for Supersize, Richardson discovered that hypnotherapy was actually the single most helpful method that she used to change her eating habits. Oh, yes, here is my article on that very programme, right here.

Because in that programme, which aired in February 2008, Richardson worked with London-based hypnotherapist, Marisa Peer, to get some marvellous results. In fact, so highly did she recommend hypnotherapy as a means of letting go of unhelpful habits and emotions around food and eating that I had a deluge of phone calls after the programme aired.

So why, now, is Channel 4 churning out the same old boring nonsense about diets – when, in fact, we know from its very own programming that diets are not an effective way of losing wieght and that making changes to the way you think about food and practising, every day, a mindset of healthful eating is the very best way to help people to feel and look good? It seems cynical in the extreme.

Here are Anna’s final words on the subject, again from the programme web site:

‘But 1200 calories doesn’t sound like much. It’s okay to do that for two weeks?’

‘Yes, it’s absolutely safe to do that for two weeks. It’s meant to be a kick-start. You can safely lose a few pounds in that time. After that, yes, of course you increase your calories, but you do it in a healthy way.’

Ahem. Excuse me?

The thing that most people I work with know how to do is to go on a diet for a couple of weeks/months/years and then come off the diet and struggle with maintaining a healthy weight. Of course, you will lose weight if you follow a very rigid restricted eating plan and do some exercise, but few people can hope to maintain that plan for very long. And it’s certainly not a very healthy or enjoyable thing to be doing with your precious life.

Why not give people some information they don’t yet know? Why not give them something new? Why not give people the benefits of your own investigations into healthy ways to lose weight by working with a hypnotherapist to help people to understand how to get a powerfully healthy, happy, focused mindset, Channel 4?

Grrrr…

My advice: forget ‘diet-along.’ Instead, follow the celebs, who seem to have discovered what really works. Follow the example of Lily Allen and Sophie Dahl and work with an experienced hypnotherapist to make some permanent changes, healthy changes that you can maintain and enjoy.

If you want to drop a dress size, start with dropping the diet mentality and get yourself a new way of thinking.

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