July 19th, 2010
I come across this particular myth all the time. We could call it a myth. Or we could call it a limiting belief.
It’s found all over the place in personal development speak. I think I probably have it sprinkled liberally all over my own web site.
And, in some senses, this statement is true: You already have all the resources you need to achieve whatever you want to achieve.
You know how it goes: If you think you can’t, then you’re right – you can’t. If you think you can, then you can. That’s the powerfully hypnotic effect of our ‘self-talk,’ those scripts we’re constantly running somewhere inside our minds. By taking the conscious decision to choose to believe that we can do something, we can actually start to make it happen.
My job is to help people to recognise, uncover, rediscover, nurture and love into being their special abilities and inner resources for positive change.
On the other hand, that pesky statment can also act as a limiting belief: I already have all the resources I need to achieve whatever I want to achieve. (So I don’t have to do anything. I’ll just lie back and close my eyes and the therapist will do it all for me.)
This is where the ‘magic wand’ perception of hypnotherapy can be so unhelpful.
Because we have to actively grow and cultivate a mindset, an attitude, behaviors and habits that create our sense of well-being. We have to work at them every day. It requires commitment and effort.
Get to know your resources, even the nascent ones, the hidden or not-quite-ready-yet ones. Recognise the difference between the knowledge and skills that you might not have yet and the stuff you already know how to do. Fill in the gaps. With love and patience and curiosity towards yourself.
You have the capacity to learn and grow everything that you need to learn and grow. And you will need to actively cultivate it.
That’s the bit that sometimes gets missed out in the more Pollyanna, happy-clappy interpretations.
You already know what to do. The thing is, do you really want to?
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